Divorce is a trauma, and anyone going through this trauma may be helped by speaking
with a counselor or therapist. Additionally, you should consider whether
family law process may be helpful to your family, as it is a private form of dispute
resolution that generally involves a neutral facilitator, who usually
has a mental health background. This is in recognition that divorce is
not just a legal matter, but also a highly emotional matter.
Regardless, below are the five stages of grief you may experience if you
are going through a divorce:
Denial – It is not uncommon for spouses to deny that the divorce process
will go forward. At this point denial sets in, and so the former spouse
may ignore correspondence received from the other spouse’s attorney
or waive of the other spouse’s movement towards divorce as “just
Anger – Spouses may experience anger while going through a divorce. Anger
at the other spouse for wanting the divorce, anger at themselves for perceived
failures, and anger at the world for being a place where divorce happens.
It is best to let other’s deal with their anger while remaining neutral.
Persuasion – Spouses may attempt to bargain to avoid the divorce. They may
attempt to bargain with the other spouse (“What if I spend less
time at work?”), bargain with God (“If I pray will you make
this stop?”), and bargain with themselves (“If I start caring
about others then this won’t happen”).
Loss – At some point in the divorce, it is not uncommon for a spouse
to feel that all is lost, or that he or she will never recover from this
trauma. At this stage, it is most important to reach out to friends and
loved ones for support and to consider speaking with someone who has the
proper mental health training.
Acceptance – Finally, spouses come to accept the divorce and know that they
can and will move forward.
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