divorce is the best solution to your marriage issues is never easy—actually,
it is emotionally overwhelming. You’ve invested years in building
a life together, especially when children are part of the equation, and
the thought of starting all over again is scary.
Many couples choose to forgo getting divorced because of their kids. They
believe that their children deserve to grow up with the family unit intact
and that anything less can harm their development.
Unfortunately, choosing to remain embroiled in a miserable marriage for
the sake of the children is a bad decision. If you decide to stick things
out just for the kids, you can expect to face several issues.
The following are common reasons to reconsider staying together for the children:
Your children will understand that marriage is not about togetherness,
but about separateness. By staying together for their sake, you’ll be teaching them that
marriage is about feeling miserable and disliking your spouse, as well
as how to live separate lives and still remain married.
Your kids will model the type of marriage you and your spouse have. Parents who are unhappy with one another are actually teaching their
kids how to behave in their own adult relationships. Like it or not, your
kids are likely to repeat the relationship patterns they have seen.
Your children will be unhappy because they will feel your unhappiness. Kids are more perceptive than we give them credit for—as if we’ve
forgotten how much we understood when we were their age.
Kids would rather their unhappy parents slit up. According to a survey by the family law organization Resolution, 82 percent
of those aged 14 to 22 who have endured family breakups would prefer their
parents to part if they are unhappy. Those that answered the survey said
it was ultimately better that their parents had divorced since children
will often realize, later on, that it was for the best.
If you are interested in filing for divorce in Daytona Beach,
schedule a free case evaluation with our experienced divorce lawyer at
Stepniak & Park today.